Sunday, November 25, 2012

Accessible Christmas Around Atlanta - Lake Lanier and Stone Mountain

Special Needs|Developmentally Delayed|Mobility Impairments|Atlanta Attractions|Lake Lanier Magical Nights of Lights|Stone Mountain Christmas|AccessibilityDuring the past week we've explored two of greater Atlanta's major Christmas events - with two very different reactions.

Lake Lanier Islands Magical Night of Lights

First, let's talk about Lake Lanier Islands Magical Nights of Lights. The only magic here is that so many people are willing to shell out $60 a carload to enter the worst traffic jam of their lives. I'd been wanting to see these lights for years and we decided to go last night - motivated by a double $10 off coupon. Sad when $40 a car sounds like a deal.

The experience reminded me of when we first moved to Atlanta. People kept telling me how wonderful hot boiled peanuts were. How they looked forward to finding them at roadside stands in the fall. What a delicious treat they were when finally located. When I saw a stand on the way to Florida I talked Kevin into pulling over. A grizzled  old dressed man in camouflage clothes sat by an open fire, with a boiling pot hanging over it. I was so excited - I was finally about to have my first hot boiled peanuts! We paid him $4 and he dumped a scoop of something from the pot into a brown paper bag. I looked inside. Hot, wet peanuts - still in the soggy shells. They smelled bad, they looked bad - they tasted awful.

Lake Lanier Islands Magical Night of Lights was equally disappointing. It was hot boiled peanuts all over again. Maybe if you've been exposed to it your whole life you develop a taste for it. Otherwise, it ranks as one of the area's largest disappointments.

The lights are nice. Many of them are animated. I imagine if this had been developed in the 1950s people would have gazed in wonder at the sight. As it is even my 6 year old was "bored, bored, bored," in her own words.

On the plus side, as you drive your own car the lights are completely handicap accessible. You can control the level of stimulus by opening or closing your windows as well as adjusting the volume on the radio if you chose to tune it to the suggested station.

We paid our money and drove through the gate. We proceeded - slowly- for almost a hour through 6 miles of lights. What they don't tell you is that it is more like 3 miles, because you drive to the end and turn around, and drive slowly back through the same lights. The speed barely registers on the speedometer.

Many of the light displays are just ads from local companies - Coca Cola, Georgia Power, etc. After you crawl through the lights you are forced into the "concession area". There is limited parking - which is ironic since they make every car enter the parking lot. However, we found a parking spot (thanks to flashing the handicap permit at an attendant) and explored the carnival.


It was on par with any other local carnival. The rides were a bit "vintage" (translation: old). There was a thrill factor to the Ferris wheel simply because it felt as if you could easily fall out of your open swinging seat. I love carnivals so even in 34 degree weather I had a good time. Rides averaged $3 per person. A pony ride was $6.

Like any carnival, it was hard to push a wheelchair around due to all of the electrical cords. A big problem was also a lack of curb cuts on the sidewalks around Santa's Village gift shop. We had to bump the wheelchair down the curb backwards to get onto the fair grounds. It was impossible to bump it back up and we just gave up and took Amanda back to the car.

We avoided the gift shop and the paid photos with Santa. The ice skating rink is a novelty and reasonably priced at $10 per person including skate rental.

We spent a total of $63 on the drive, rides and a box of popcorn. Boy, was I happy I had that double coupon! I could easily see a family of 4 spending $150+ on an evening here. Even at my "bargain" price I felt slightly ripped off. Like boiled peanuts, this is something I only needed to try once to discover that I did not like it.

In the video you can see the cars who have turned and are coming back through the lights in the opposite direction.

Stone Mountain Christmas


Stone Mountain Christmas, on the other hand was lots of fun. First, if you are Mountain Members its included in your membership. So, for us, entrance was free. If you aren't members the cost is $28 per adult and $22 per child. Truthfully I might be more critical if I had paid $106 for this experience. It wasn't worth $100+. If you want to go, consider purchasing the Mountain Membership.  For twice the price of the Christmas admission ($56 per adult, $44 per child) you get unlimited admission to the park and free parking for an entire year. Regular membership includes a $10 discount off Snow Mountain - the deluxe membership includes free admission to Snow Mountain as well as free admission to the Summit Sky Ride and the  Ducks.

So keeping the cost factor in mind our experience at Stone Mountain Christmas was  a happy surprise. No one had ever told me about Stone Mountain Christmas so I had no expectations to be dashed. I discovered it because we are members and I was looking for something inexpensive to do. Like Lake Lanier, there are millions (no exaggeration) of lights at Stone Mountain for the holidays. Instead of driving through them the central area, Crossroads, is decked out so you can stroll through the displays.

Even the miniature golf course is decorated with thousands of little white lights, making night time golf a special treat. Part of the miniature golf course is accessible with a wheelchair - part is not. There is a sign which redirects you to the accessible holes partway through the course.

If you like, you can take the 30 minute train ride around the mountain. Holiday lights have been set up along the route so its a pretty ride. The rear car of the train has a wheelchair lift and staff are very helpful. There are ties to anchor the chair safely during the ride. The only downside it that it is an open air car and can be chilly. During this time of year they play Christmas carols which Amanda really enjoyed.

There is a small parade every evening at 6 PM. I think we counted six floats. The parade features the characters from the shows held in the park during Christmas so don't be surprised to see an alien robot dancing down the street. It was cute, but not something I would rush to see. The girls both liked it. Staff were very helpful and made sure that Amanda had a good view of the parade.

 
We were lucky to see the Georgia Bubbleman when we were there. He was wonderful! He created bubbles of all sizes and let the kids chase them. He made a special effort to include Amanda in the fun - coming over and blowing bubbles all around her wheelchair. He even gave an impromptu science lesson by blowing bubbles using the heated air from one of the fire pits. 
 
 

There are several shows throughout the area: Toyrific, Forever Christmas, Holly Jolly Cabaret, A Crossroads Christmas Carol, Visit with Santa Claus. There is also a "4-D" holiday movie, The Polar Express. On select nights (at 9:45 PM) there are fireworks. From the outside, I could tell that the shows are loud and may be a problem for people with sensory issues. We didn't make it to any of the shows or the fireworks so I think we'll go back. When we do I'll expand this entry!


However, just the fact that I would go back (again the same year) demonstrates how much more enjoyable we found Stone Mountain Christmas. If you are going to drive almost an hour outside of the city for one holiday event (and spend $100) I would chose Stone Mountain hands down over Lake Lanier Islands.


Note: This is my opinion, based on my family's experiences. I wasn't compensated in any way by either location.

 

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Stocking Stuffers for Children with Special Needs

Stocking Stuffers for Special Needs|Stocking Stuffer Gifts Developmentally Delayed|Presents Special Needs|Gift Ideas|Autism Gift Guide|Gifts for Kids with Mobility Impairments|Stockign stuffers 2012
I adore stockings. For some unfathomable reason they are my favorite part of Christmas. I love searching for special little things to fill them - whether its a favorite candy or a memento from a trip. I love the little treats; this is not about a big splurge like hidden jewelry. It's about being thoughtful and remembering things the person would have liked or could have used during the year. I start the search months before Christmas, carefully stashing things out of sight in my closet.  I try to keep the contents for each stocking under a total of $25-30.

Stocking stuffers are extremely hard to find for Amanda. With limited fine motor skills crayons, markers, etc. are not good options. Cognitively she's not ready for flashcards or card games. Over the years we have exhausted most of the standard stocking stuffers typically suggested for kids with special needs. In no specific order these are:
  • Fidget toys like Tangle or Koosh balls
  • Maracas, egg shakers, wrist jingle bells or hand bells
  • Sour candy spray like Warheads or QuickBlast
  • Chewies and chewelry
  • Bandannas (for drooling/ chewing)
  • Bubbles
  • Curly straws
  • Travel cup

Don't forget that some classics are appropriate for kids with special needs. Almost every child has one or two types of candy that they like. Amanda likes gummies and marshmallows.  Children on the autism spectrum may prefer crunchy foods. Consider small bags of chips, 100 calorie packs of cookies or even individual sized boxes of cereal.

Lots of kids with special needs enjoy manipulating office supplies like stickers, post it notes, tape and bubble wrap. Hair ties, barrettes, a comb or brush and a new toothbrush are all stand bys. To add a little pizzazz (and oral motor stimulation) consider buying a musical toothbrush or a Spinbrush. Socks, slippers, hats and mittens are all good fillers. Expect a child with special needs to be about as thrilled with these items as any child would be (in other words, not at all.)



Now we move into the more expensive small gifts.  Computer games, Wii games, CDs and DVDs are the right size, but more than I typically like to spend.  Target has a section of $5 DVDs (Scooby Doo, Thomas, Barney, Strawberry Shortcake, etc.)

Other ideas in the $5-10 range include:
  • Hog Wild Animal Poppers (they shoot foam balls - great for developing grip strength)
  • Light up wands and spinners - distraction and fine motor
  • MP3 player (lots available for under $20)
  • Gak (gooey stuff) or Slime/Noise Putty from Dollar Tree- sensory
  • Floam or other play foam (non-drying molding compound) - sensory & fine motor
  • Crayon Rocks (Danielle loves them! ) recommended by Handwriting Without Tears - fine motor
  • Liquid Motion timer (we got ours from Amazon) - fidget toy
  • Jacob's Ladder (a classic wooden toy) or WhatzIt fidget toy
  • Light up balls - fidget toys
  • Small push button musical keychains (we have several that play songs from High School Musical)- sensory & fine motor
  • Magic Loops - I had this as a kid and still love it - sensory & fine motor
  • FindIt tube - can be bought (expensive!) or made inexpensively
  • Echo microphone - I saw these at Dollar Tree last week! - communication
  • Rainstick
  • Stickers, tape, character bandaids - fine motor
  • Small packs of chips or cereal - oral motor
  • Spinbrush  - oral motor
  • Harmonica or whistle - oral motor


This year Amanda's stocking will contain:
  • a Mickey Mouse light up spinner from our trip to Walt Disney World - distraction toy
  • inexpensive, folding headphones (not earbuds) $3 from Fry's
  • a new $5 DVD
  • A rolled up magazine
  • Livesaver Gummies
  • Christmas marshmallow Peeps
  • Mini Ipod speaker (from Michael's for about $5 with coupon)

Other helpful posts:
http://www.playworks.net/special-needs-toys.html good explanation of types of toys
http://www.growingajeweledrose.com/2012/10/100-stocking-stuffer-ideas-of-play.html has a whole section on sensory play
http://www.constructiveplaythings.com/cgi-bin/s.sh/2.0/category.htm?dept_id=Special%20Needs
http://unplugyourkids.com/2009/07/05/rice-find-it-jar-game/ making a find it game tutorial DIY
http://funandfunction.com/oral-motor-chewies-c-65_107_110.html

http://mommasbacon.com/2012/10/24/product-review-crayon-rocks-christmas-special-toddler-stocking-stuffer/

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Gift Ideas for A Developmentally Delayed Teenager

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Once again its the most wonderful time of year for most children. Christmas and Hanukkah bring piles of gifts and big smiles... except when your child has special needs. Just trying doing a search on "gifts for special needs" and see what you get. Besides ads for overpriced therapy equipment posing as toys there isn't much guidance out there.


Every year ToysRUs publishes a "Guide for Differently-Abled" catalog that is somewhat helpful. This is a link to the 2011 Toy list from "Love That Max" -- sadly Amanda doesn't function at a high enough level for any of the 100 toys listed. All of them would present too great a physical challenge to do anything other than frustrate her.  This proves that, just like typical kids, all kids with special needs are not the same.

I've found a few posts from other moms with children who are considered "moderate to severely delayed" that are helpful.  My favorite gift suggestion was for the parents more than the child.  Thank you, Dream Mom for suggesting "Babysitting coupons so the parents can go out to dinner are always appreciated. So often with Special Needs children, none of the family wants to babysit since they are afraid or it’s too much work. While that may be true, there is often a time when the child is sleeping, that the parents can go out for a quick dinner."

Of course, no one site or store can determine what every child with special needs might want or enjoy. With Amanda's birthday only a month before Christmas I go through a lot of stress this time of year trying to find not one but two sets of presents that she will enjoy. I realize that if its hard for me to find a good gift it must be almost impossible for her grandparents and others who rarely see her. The key to giving a good gift is to know the recipient. It doesn't matter if they have special needs or not. You want to give a gift that will be enjoyed and appreciated.

Gift cards and cash are safe options - but they basically put the burden of shopping on the parents. Sometimes this is a relief. Parents can buy things they know their child needs or will enjoy. On the other hand, parents of children with special needs are often overwhelmed. This can be a sad time of year for us - missing out on the happy family moments others take for granted. You may be doing the family a favor if you step up to the plate and shop for your gift yourself.

Happily, there are some children with mobility impairments (in wheelchairs, using walkers, etc.) who are mentally and emotionally on par with their peers. Just because they aren't necessarily playing football or on the cheer squad doesn't mean that they don't want the same things their friends do. These are the "easy" kids with special needs. They may have difficulty using their hands well or walking, but they want the same toys that their friends have - American Girl dolls, Beyblades, a Wii, etc. Don't treat them like babies because they need assistance with some things.

In general, try to avoid anything physically demanding or athletic - unless the child specifically requests it! In which case, give them the chance to try. I know kids in wheelchairs who take karate and dance. Never sets limits for them. Our area has adaptive basketball, baseball, soccer and even sled hockey. Many children are able to integrate into typical sports with some assistance. You never know what opportunities may be available for kids with special needs!

Bowling is the great equalizer. Both of my kids can bowl. Its one of our favorite family activities. Call the local bowling alley and see if they have a ramp for people with disabilities (we've never found an alley that didn't). Give a gift certificate for a family bowling night. Many states have a Brunswick Zone bowling alley.

Giving gifts to children who are developmentally delayed (mentally retarded) is more difficult for family & friends. No one wants to offend the parents by buying their teenager a gift labeled "0-3 years" even if they think the child might enjoy it. Instead they fall back on socially acceptable (and uninteresting) options like clothes and stuffed animals.

I don't know any kid who is excited to get clothes for their birthday or a holiday - at least until he or she is old enough to want designer clothes and shoes that their parents are unwilling to buy.   Otherwise you might as well be giving them socks and underwear. Trust me, that adorable dress or cute sweatshirt is going to land on the floor within minutes.


While some children (including my youngest) love stuffed animals, many children with special needs - especially autism- dislike textures. Stuffed animals, instead of representing an adorable animal to cuddle, are something to be avoided with their fluffy fur and scratchy fabrics. It's called tactile defensiveness. Amanda had shelves of stuffed animals with the tags still attached that she never touched. I finally sprayed them with Febreeze, tossed them in the dryer for a few minutes and donated them to the local Firefighters to pass out to children during emergencies.


Instead, consider buying a musical gift - a CD, music box, etc. Many kids with special needs love music. Depending on their physical abilities musical instruments are great gifts. Most children (even very motor impaired) can play bells or a tambourine. Amanda loves her keyboard and has played with it for years. You can get a guitar for a child with good motor coordination. Look for PaperJamz musical instruments. No strings on the guitar ans easily mastered.


Amanda's Ipad was hands down the best gift she ever received. An Ipad or Ipod is a great gift if you have the funds. If the lucky child already has one or both of these, buy accessories such as durable cases, extra headphones (ours are always breaking or getting lost) and ITunes gift cards.  Our $50 Otterbox  case saved the Ipad from many falls.  However, after Amanda smashed the screen on her Ipad twice in one month we invested $150 in an AirDesk - another wonderful gift if you are looking to make an impact and have the funds. It's a rotating, free standing tray for an Ipad or tablet. It can be used near a chair, a wheelchair or even in bed.
Airdesk!

If you can't afford to give an IPad (who can?) consider a less expensive Kindle Fire or the kid-friendly, more durable MEEP. There are also plenty of MP3 players other than the IPod, that you can pick up for under $20.

Amanda loves watching TV. One year family members chipped in to buy her her "own" TV. It was the gift that kept on giving. It's in the livingroom, but she gets control of the remote. The rest of us have to watch TV in another room. DVDs are always appreciated - just check to see what the child has or would like. You'd be surprised. Amanda loves age-appropriate music despite her delay. She loves concert movies of One Direction, Jonas Brothers, the Cheetah Girls and Miley Cyrus -- as well as The Wiggles.

A dear friend gave Amanda her first Netflix subscription as a get well gift one year. It was ideal!  Redbox gift cards are another good gift along this line. A car or portable DVD player is a wonderful $60 splurge gift. It can keep the child content, calm and occupied at restaurants and places that are typically hard to go with a disabled child.

Even the most physically and mentally impaired children typically enjoy simple cause and effect toys with lights and music. Many of these are suggested in the ToysRUs Guide. Before buying one, ask the parents what the child already has. One year Amanda got three indentical Leapfrog toys. We were happy to donate two to Toys for Tots.

Some kids with special needs crave stimulation in the form of light and sound, others avoid it. A good set of noise reducing headphones can be a God send for loud places like the mall, theme parks, etc.

Kids with special needs often want "toys" that aren't true toys at all. My daughter loves to flip through magazines. Right now they are her absolute favorite gift. Despite the fact that she can't read. I don't know if she enjoys the pictures, the ability to manipulate the pages or just the sound it makes when she turns the pages. It doesn't matter. She enjoys them and that is enough for me. Last year her best Christmas gift came from her grandparents - subscriptions to two teen magazines. They were pleased to be able to give her something age-appropriate. She is thrilled to get 2 new magazines every month.

Another thoughtful gift idea is a custom photobook. Amanda loves her school year books so this year I made her an soft covered photo album as a surprise. To do this, take or collect pictures of the child's friends, family, pets, school, favorite things and places. Label each picture with the names. Have a book printed out that they can flip through. It will take an hour or so to create (depending on your computer skills) and costs under $30.

I know other kids who adore office supplies. Who doesn't love bubble wrap? You can buy rolls of it from Dollar Tree or Staples. Other interesting sensory items from the stationery section include tape, stickers, rolls or paper...

Other useful links
http://voices.yahoo.com/picking-gifts-profoundly-mentally-challenged-10760823.html

Friday, November 2, 2012

Feeling Blue in A Red State

Political Commentary|Democrat's Perspective|What it Feels Like to be a Political Minority|Vandalism

I wrote this 4 years ago. Sadly, things in Georgia have gone from bad to worse. Now children in our neighborhood are being mocked and threatened for their parents political views. Truly tragic.
 
 

Last weekend the homes of all of the known Democrats in our neighborhood were vandalized.  If you had told me a week ago that I, a middle-aged white Christian woman, would be the victim of a hate crime I would have vehemently denied it.  Now I know differently. In this highly polarized campaign, no one is safe.

 

I told a friend that I was still reeling from the crime.  She said in surprise,” it wasn’t a crime.”  No?  Then what was it?  Three homes were attacked for expressing their political views publicly. 

 

I asked her if it would be different it had been Christmas and somebody defaced a manger scene.  She replied in shock, “No one would do that to the baby Jesus!”  Probably not.  The Muslim family across the street wouldn’t.  The Jewish couple next door definitely wouldn’t.  What gives certain members of Republican Party in Georgia the right to deface the property of others simply because they disagree with them politically?

 

Freedom of expression is one of the cornerstones of democracy.  In fact it is so critical to democracy that the framers of the Constitution ensured our right to free speech by drafting the First Amendment.  Last weekend’s attacks were a shame. They were fundamentally un-American.  They were also a crime. 

 

I explained to my neighbor, that the crime is the same, regardless of the property involved. Trespassing, vandalism and destruction of personal property are all crimes. It doesn’t matter if it was a religious decoration or a political sign. Freedom of expression is what America is all about - but this freedom does not extend the wanton destruction of personal property. 

 

Another neighbor expressed regret over the attacks.  He told me secretly that he was also a Democrat, but didn’t want it known.  Not since the McCarthy era have people been afraid to admit they were members of a political party – and then it wasn’t the Democratic party.

 

I am saddened that this is what America has come to.  The media’s division of the country into “red” and “blue” states has made those of us who disagree with the majority in our state feel marginalized.  It has also given the majority an unreasoning sense of entitlement.  The attacks in our neighborhood were the result of an overconfident majority attempting to subordinate a perceived minority group.